By Andreas Themistocleous, APC Sports Consulting Ltd
Perhaps it seems insulting, but parents must learn to be their children’s top fans. This does not undermine their best intentions. The key difference lies in the roadmap to becoming a top fan. This article explores the true meaning of a top fan, which often differs from common perceptions in youth sports today.
We’ve all seen various types of parents in sports. The parent who coaches from the side-lines. The ones who antagonizes the opposing team. The parent who blames referees. The parent who tries to control decisions and dreams of a pro contract. I’m sure images come to mind as you read, and you’re probably smiling.
A top fan allows the young athlete to explore sports. The athlete should choose which sport to pursue and navigate it with three basic goals:
a) Enjoy sports and have fun,
b) Maintain an active lifestyle,
c) Socialize and develop.
A top fan stays in regular contact with coaches and supports their child without interfering. This fan engages in discussions and allows their child room for growth, expression, and feedback. They offer love and support while ensuring their child’s physical and emotional wellbeing.
A top fan does the “dirty work.” Car pools, laundry, shopping, and attending practices consistently, meeting the athlete’s needs without overspending. Being present at games is crucial, but being a silent observer is better. Voice your opinion at home or on the way back. Show your child true respect. Applaud the opposition’s effort and refrain from coaching discussions. That’s a top fan.
Parents must prioritize their child’s education and life plan. Sports should remain secondary; most likely, your child will turn pro in something other than sports. Are you prepared for this? Support your child’s balance between school, sports, social life, relationships, and breaks. Offer love and guidance without imposing your beliefs. Your child must explore their own answers, with your support.
Building character is another important part of being a top fan. Honesty, hard work, leadership, respect for others, and diversity are essential traits. These qualities not only benefit sports but also carry over to the job market and life. Teaching these values makes a top fan more valuable than a large bank account.
Financial literacy is equally important. Teach your child about saving, budgeting, and understanding the value of money. This knowledge helps them make informed decisions, even if they never turn pro.
Reading this, I realize how challenging it is to be a top fan. It’s like juggling knives while walking barefoot through a thorny forest. That’s the daily life of a parent.